Stop Clinging To Pain Just To Feel Something

It’s a Monday morning. The weekend was fabulous! Having spent half of it soaking in the awe-inspiring stories of crusaders of life. And, then there are those who I meet in the work I do. Silent champions seeking justice from the Universe. There are many who have complete faith in the Higher Powers vested in themselves. They trust and believe in who they are with a bit of nudging, prodding and pushing. And, then there are those who no matter what, believe to look at the world through the lens of the defeated, even before the battle has begun.

At times, they mirror who I was a few decades ago. Wanting so badly to keep the faith but never did.

Yes, wars are enacted and lost even before they happen. Making us worriers instead of warriors.

In fact, think about any person you admire the most. It is likely that there are times that they don’t think they are good enough.

My clients and friends often ask me, “Do you worry, too?” Oh, yes, of course I do. I go through moments where I question my abilities. But, the duration is momentary. I acknowledge my fear and my anxiety. However, I refuse to succumb to it.

I love my life – all the good, the bad and the ugly that comes with it. As they say, so many lifetimes have genetically imprinted and combined to produce your unique dna so how can you believe you are not extraordinarily special?

How can you push away the vestiges of worry and self-doubt to keep your soul lighting the fire of the love and joy you are meant to have?

Let me share how?

CHANNELISE YOUR WORRYING.

If worrying made you lose weight, be out of debt, find that perfect relationship, cleanse the alcohol abuse of your only child, make your parents more ‘loving’ and many such situations you are going through – I’d say, go worry away. Yet, no quantum of worry can assuage the hurt or change things.

If you carry the dream for a better tomorrow, begin sowing the seeds of joy, now. Do something about it. What can you do to make things better instead of cursing and self-blame?

Begin with asking yourself, “how did I become so good at worrying about xyz? Write it down. For e.g how did I get so good at falling into the same destructive relationships patterns or work patterns? Watch how the answers will unfold, effortlessly. Try it.

FAKE IT TO MAKE IT.

Your thoughts create your reality, haven’t you heard of this ever so often. Well, yes, it’s true. Shift your focus on the what you would like your world to be. Visualise and actualise your dreams of a joyful life. Design the fabric of your life with thoughts that create happiness in whichever area you need fulfillment. Though, remember, happiness isn’t a destination, it is a journey.

LISTEN TO ADVICE, FOLLOW YOUR INNER VOICE.

You, like any of the special beings called human, are empowered with a direct hotline to the Higher Power. Hear people out who have sage advice for you from the well of their own experience. However, the journey is yours alone to walk on, so stay still and listen to your own heart. It has your best interest. Trust that inner voice.

ENJOY THE SIMPLE THINGS IN LIFE WITH TOTAL INTENSITY.

Even a small cup of tea can be a deep meditation. Thankfulness in being able to rise every morning and the ability to exude love and compassion. Go outside, and enjoy some fresh air. Staying cooped in your room or your cubicle isn’t going to take away the veil of despondency. Breathe in life. And, the hope for an amazing one.

Stop clinging to pain just to feel something.

Wish you love and light as 2015 draws to a close. Be thankful and in gratitude for all those who walked with you on this leg of your journey.

Thank you, each one of you reading this, for being a special part of mine.

Hugs and healing